By: Khalid Ar-Rashid
This book dipersempahkan for:
• People who are bersilaturrahim either knew or did not know that silaturrahim is worship and connect relatives.
• Addressed to a willing heart to meet with relatives and people close because of several reasons that could not come ... I hope can be patient.
• People who can not meet with relatives and relatives as well as forced to temporarily abandon their sense of heart and always wanted to meet together ... Hopefully udzurnya accepted.
• People who do not want bersilaturrahim as hard hearted or will not reflect on the verses of Allaah, or did not understand the sun-nah Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam Advice and benefits ....
Khalid Rashid
SILATURRAHIM
Uterus in the language means Rahmah is soft and affectionate. Tarahamal qaumu mean s-ling berkasih affection.
Imam Al-Azhary say is meant by the word of God:
"And we will never send you, but to (become) a mercy for the Worlds. (Al-Anbiya ': 107) is love.
Tarahhama 'alaihi means praying for someone to obtain mercy, begging her istarhama means of grace. Rajulun rahumun (men loving) and imra'atun rahumun (female lover). Ar-Rahmah fi sons of adam, meaning tenderness and kindness.
A person close to the relatives said, when he has the compassion and kindness, so to how good and affection. Abu Ishaq said: It is said that those closest to her uterus closest affection and the closest kin relationships.
Ar-ar-ruhumu your soul and the language is the ka-Poor and sympathy. God calls the rain with the name of mercy. Ibn Sayyidih said that what is meant by ar-ar-rihimu uterus and is the home where the growth of children, and the plurality arhaam.
Al-ar-uterine Jauhary said means relatives. Imam Ibn Athir said that dzu uterus are people who have a family relationship that is every person who has a relationship with your nasab.
Imam Al-Azhary said ar-wombs are close relationships between fathers and their children with love the very near future.
Allah the Exalted says:
"And fear Allah, that with the (use) his name you are asking for each other each other, and guard-turrahim sila relationship." (An-Nisa ': 1)
The Arabs say: "Let me remind you to fear Allah and silatur-uterine relationship."
PREFACE
Allaah has given this congregation has sent prophets from their own ranks and reduces the Qur'an with their language. Allah says:
"Now hath come unto you a messenger from thy people themselves, it seemed to him severe pain, really wants (faith and salvation) for you, so again loving compassion towards the believers." (At-Taubah: 128)
And the word of God:
"Verily We sent down a Qur'an with Arabic, that ye may understand it." (Yusuf: 2)
Holy book the Qur'an is derived not just to take his blessing and read, or just set the problem of unity and doctrinal camps, or just set the shari'ah, but the Qur'an came also to educate people and to form community and countries.
Indeed Islam has its own manhaj manhaj Robbani and Islam are very much concerned with family ties after making major commitments aqidah ties as the foundation of relationships. Attachment to families who protect each other, including the rules of Islam and is a natural tendency in the soul of humanity, and Islam, encourage and foster strong relationships relative to the stage the better. As family relationships become a means for the interests and welfare of Islam, then the relative relationship is included as an attempt to establish an Islamic society.
And the main characteristics of religious believers is always proven by deeds and actions not just words and recognition. Allah the Exalted says:
"And told to be patient with each other and told each other to berkasih affection." (Al-Balad: 17)
The word al-Marhamah deeper than Rahmah, which means berkasih mutual affection among those who believe and intestate so that they always berkasih affection among believers and even these will serve as the obligation bermasyara-kat and helping to enforce the will of community center. And usually the most appropriate environment and is very fertile for growing testament is a relative relationship so that the Quran and Sunnah the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam made relative relationship as the main target in the intestate for berkasih mutual affection.
Connecting kin relationship is mandatory and decide it is a great sin.
Imam Nawawi, may Allaah have mercy said: "Whoever justifies consciously ape-bat termination without cause or there subhat while he knows that deciding relative relationship is haram, then he infidels, eternity in Hell and will not go to Heaven forever."
Connecting silaturrahim has several levels and the lowest is to reconnect the relationship has broken up with talk or just say hello so as not to enter into the termination of relatives. If someone connects some relationship to kin but not entirely, then he can not be said cutting ties with relatives. But if less than the supposed fairness of silaturrahim, then could not someone is called to connect.
The scholars disagree about a relative who joined mandatory silaturrahimnya relationships, some of them think that every person there is a relationship mahram, some other scholars believe that every person there is a relationship with our relatives either mahram relationship or something else, like an uncle or aunt's daughter . As the hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam about the population of Egypt:
"Verily, for the protection of their existing rights and kinship." (Narrated Ath-Thabrani)
And also the hadeeth of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam that he said:
"Surely goodness of the best is someone who can connect with a friend of his father's family relationship." (Saheeh al-Jami ', Al-Albani)
In fact they are mentioned in the above hadith does not have a relationship nasab altogether. Means the hadith above have a very broad meaning of love and berkasih obligation to pay attention to fellow Muslims and this in accordance with the teachings and demands of reality.
KITABULLAH AND SILATURRAHIM
Allah the Exalted says:
"And fear Allah, that with the (use) his name you are asking for each other each other, and guard silaturrahim relationship." (An-Nisa ': 1).
Family is the main foundation of environmental awakening a society. And the first adhesive human relationships are the glue that is worth rububiyah relationship which is the most basic relationship adhesive. God praise the man because of kinship relations. So fear Allah, that you pledge to each other and promised his majesty's name, you ask each other one another with the greatness of his name and you swear to each other each other with his name. Grow-kanlah value piety among you so that relationships remain to be continued and lasting relations. Kin relationship is a very important relationship after relationship rububiyah and fears to God. Then, afraid to decide silaturrahim, always pay attention to their rights, preserving the relationship not to destroy and persecute kemesraannya, never try to disturb and touch together. Stay close, love, honor and glorify silaturrahim. Make your life longing and shade in the shade and intimacy silaturrahim, Allah says:
"Surely God is always protecting and watching you." (An-Nisa ': 1)
And Allah the Exalted says:
"And the people who connect what God commanded to be joined and they fear their Lord." (Ar-Ra'd: 21)
Allaah commanded us to connect better with people faqir relations, good relations with neighbors and good relations with relatives and relatives. When human beings decide what is commanded by God to be connected, then the social bond of society would fall apart, the damage is spread in every place, chaos happens everywhere and symptoms of selfishness and bossy nature itself will arise in social life. So that each individual community to live without clue, a neighbor does not know the right neighbors, as people feel the suffering and starvation faqir alone and kin relationships fall apart, so that human life completely transformed into animal life was worthless.
From Anas ibn Malik said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Anyone who likes to be dilated rizkinya and postponed his age, then let bersilatur-womb". (Muttafaq 'alaih)
PARENTS TO DO GOOD
SILATURRAHIM IS THE MOST MAJOR
Bersilaturrahim and do good to parents is that a statute Kitabullah teaching the Quran and Al-Hadith. Allah the Exalted says:
"And your Lord has commanded that ye should not worship except Him, and let you do good on your father's mother as best." (Al-Isra ': 23)
Wa making up those Rabbuka means a common command can not be bargained again and Alla Ta'budu Iyahu illallah means an individual religious orders.
God connects worship Him by doing good to the parents to show how noble the position of parents and birrul walidain (do good to parents) in Allah's sight.
Instinctively parents willingly would sacrifice everything to nurture and raise her kids and kids get a perfect enjoyment and protection of both parents.
A child is always a nuisance and seized the attention of his parents and older when they stepped on the remains happy with the state of her son and daughter, but how quickly a child's melalai all the services of her parents, preoccupied only with his wife and child so the father did not need to advise their children it's just a child must be reminded and excited feelings of their obligations toward their parents who along with his age spent their difficulties and expense of all that exists for their pleasure and happiness to come the tired and weary.
So do good to both parents to be an absolute decision of Allah and worship which ranks second only to worship God.
"If one of them or both until age further in-raanmu pemeliha." (Al-Isra ': 23)
Syn kibarul means flying or older, the age is getting old, his back had begun stooping and wrinkled skin has begun. 'Indaka which means maintenance is a sentence that describes the meaning of shelter and shelter at the time of old age, weak and helpless.
Allah the Exalted says:
"So do not let you say to them saying" ah "and do not yell at them". (Al-Isra ': 23)
It was as if God said; Bersopan santunlah you to the parents! Thus the verse teaches politeness to a child does not show rudeness and hurtful or demeaning both parents.
Allah the Exalted says:
"And speak to them a noble word."
This higher level is imperative for children to always say good words to both parents and show respect and appreciate.
Allah Almighty also says:
"And lower to them both with great affection."
As if the attitude of inferiority has wings and the wing lowered as a mark of respect and submission in the sense of condescending attitude that ought ordered both parents, as for your kindness and sincere recognition of his services.
Allah the Exalted says:
"And say:" O God love them both, as they both have little time to educate me. "(Al-Isra ': 24)
The mention of the weak condition of childhood that takes care of both parents to remind the same conditions being experienced by parents when they stepped on elderly people who always need love and such care. Then ask God to be able to give compassion to them both as a recognition of the lack of giving love tank is the perfect and only God who can give love or care who is perfect and only He is able to repay all the goodness that is not perfectly possible for children to do so.
Proof of God's love tank that looked at a lot of other creatures. An example of sunlight shining on the universe, humans breathe air through lungs process, functioning of water for drinking, cooking and watering the plants and affection on his son's mother appears in nature as a proof of love of God Lord of hosts.
Noble and good people to both parents will always know the position and the glory of the parents, he felt when he kissed the hands of the mother or her father as if he prostrated himself with his spirit and feeling like a prostrate to Allah, he gets a real identity as a a secret in life. All this is evidence the award and paid tribute to both parents. Ta'la God says:
"And We have enjoined man (do) kindness to parents-her father. And if they both force you to ascribe to something I have no knowledge, then do not follow them both." (Al-Ankabut: 8).
Parents are the closest relatives mempu gammer countless services and a great love of all time so that's not strange if his rights are also great.
A child is obliged to love, respect and preserve their parents, although both idolatrous or different religions, both are entitled to be goodness and maintenance rather than to obey and follow kesyrikan or religion. Allah the Exalted says:
"And We have enjoined on man (do good) to the two parents: his mother had conceived him in a position of weakness that were added-added, and weaning in two years." (Luqman: 14)
Repeatedly mentioned as well as testament to a lot of children in order to do good to both parents in the Qur'an and the Messenger of Allaah wills' alaihi wasallam and not mentioned a will to do good parents to their children except for a bit.
Because the kindness and the sacrifices parents Beru-pa soul, body and strength of countless without sighing and asking a reply from his son, in nature (instinct) is sufficient as an incentive for both parents to be so without the pressure with a will. The child must always be given the will, and are reminded to always remember those services that have been devoted body and soul and all his life in raising and educating him. Especially a mother during pregnancy experienced a lot of weight as the word of Allah Almighty (her mother had conceived him in a position of weakness that stepped-up), more mothers are suffering in raising and nurturing children, pregnant and suffering at the moment no one could feel the weariness except the mother as well.
Al-Bazzar narrated hadith from Buraidah from his father that there was a man who was thawaf while wearing his mother, and then he asked the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam: "What I've been performing with her right?" He sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam replied: "Not yet! Although a chunk".
From Al-Miqdam that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Allah intestate so that you do good to your mothers, Allah-siat berwa to do good to your fathers and your Allah is intestate to relatives in order to do good to your relatives." (Dishahih out by Al-Albani in Genealogy Saheehah)
Children are a part of life and parts of the hearts of parents, affection flowed in both flesh and blood.
From 'Aqra' bin After he actually saw the Messenger of Allaah kissing Hasan alaihi wasallam, and he said: "Verily, I have ten children and I have never kissed one of them. He said:
"Verily, he who does not love it will not be loved." (Muttafaq 'alaih)
Qais bin Al-Ahnaf may Allaah have mercy asked about his attitude toward the child's problems, so he answered: Children are the fruit of the heart, soul mates and spine, we would willingly walk on the earth like a humiliation for them and like the sky is ready to overshadow their lives and we are ready to become a weapon protection for them in the face of distress. If they ask for something kabulkanlah and when angry to find something nice heart, then they will return your affection and grateful for every gift you. Do you feel heavy and weighed down by your son, because they will ignore your life and your death wish and reluctantly approached you.
If a child in the eyes of his position of parents like that, should the child put parent's position of not less than that in respect and honor their parents as evidence of reciprocation and recognition of the kindness that has been obtained from parents. In addition to fixed silaturrahim obligation to preserve them in accordance with Kitabullah.
From Abu Hurairah true Prophet 'alayhi wasallam said:
"Three kinds of prayer that must terkabulkan; prayer of parents for children, prayer of the traveler and the prayers of the oppressed". (Genealogy of the Al-Ash-Saheehah Ahadits, Al-Albani).
Imam Muslim narrated from Abu Hurayrah that a man came to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam asked for permission to join the jihad, then he sallallaahu' alaihi wasallam said: "Are your parents still alive? He said:" Yes, it is still alive " . He said: "And strive in (keeping) both."
From Abu Bakrah said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam said: "Will you tell me about the greatest sin?" We replied: "Yes, O-lullah Rasu." He said:
"Associating anything with Allah and disobedience to parents." He then leaned back, then continue to sit down and said: "Know, and the word of a lie". (Saheeh al-Jami ')
From Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud said: I asked the Messenger sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam: Is charity the most beloved of God? He replied: "Prayers in time." I asked: "And more than anything else?" He said: "To do good to parents". I asked: "Then let alone?" He sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam bersab-da: "Jihad in the way of Allah." (Muttafaq 'alaih)
From Jabir ibn Abdullah actually a man said: O Messenger of fact I have wealth and children, and my father wanted my treasure. Then he sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"You belong to your father and your treasure." (Muttafaq 'alaih).
And the best walidain birrul instructions is an attitude that has been shown by the prophets' alaihimus shalatu wa salam as a symbol of conviction and instructions for every human.
Prophet Ismail 'alayhi salam said and his words diabadi's in the word of God Almighty:
"He replied:" O my father, do what is commanded thee; Insha Allah you shall find me of the people who are patient ". (Ash-Shafaat: 102).
Noah 'alayhi salam said and his words are also mentioned in the word of Allah, the Exalted:
"My Lord! Forgive me, my parents, who come to my house with faith." (Nuh: 28)
Prophet Isa 'alayhi salam also disifati by Allah Almighty in His Word:
"And dutiful to my mother." (Maryam: 32)
Prophet Yahya 'alayhi salam disifati by Allah Almighty also mentioned this in the word of God:
"And a lot of dedication to both parents, and he was not arrogant, rebellious." (Mary: 14)
How wonderful if a Muslim can imitate and follow in the footsteps of the prophets.
O CHILDREN, MY SON
O my children day and night throughout my life, I sacrificed for you so that you are happy, your parents and tired and suffering from a sinking heart when you're sick and your face pale. My son beloved ta. That phrase is often repeated by a mother or father. O remember the services of a child your parents are great when you are still in the womb, when you were a baby and after you step on a teen until you become an adult. Now it's time your parents need love and attention from you. While you are busy just taking care of his wife and children until you ignore your parents, when the Arabs used to think ignominy ignorance and self-esteem fall if there is a child who is rebellious to his parents. Proverb-Arab proverb tells it, accusing him with a very ugly picture even nicknamed him the nickname, a nickname that is very cruel. However, we read many stories today about the story, the rebellious children to both parents.
Abu Ubaidah At-Taimy in his book, Al-'Aqaqah wal Bararah said some examples of people who do good to both parents and a few examples of people who are rebellious to their parents. One of the sons Qurai 'named Murrah ibn Khattab bin Abdullah bin Hamzah had taunted and sometimes hitting their parents, so his father said:
I raised him when he was little like a newly born baby bird is still weak bones.
Mother who fed it to eat up to see her son had begun to perfect skin.
And another example, the rebellious to his parents was the son of Umm Al-Hazaniyah Tsawab, he was insubordinate to his mother because his wife is always hinder to do good to his mother, so her mother reveals heartache in a poem:
I nurtured in childhood when he was still like a baby bird, while its mother is feeding the food and see the new skin is still growing.
As an adult she tore my clothes off and hit my body, whether after a period of my parents I had to teach ethics and etiquette.
And also Yahya bin Yahya bin Said, a nuisance when he had his father and his father had scolded by writing a poem:
Since its birth and infancy of a child I mengasuhmu, and I'm always trying to get you a high and affluent people.
At night you can not complain sick to sleep. Complaints made me depressed and scared.
The soul always nervous about safety for yourself, because I know that every soul is threatened by death.
The examples above are some of the few cases prodigal son to his parents that happened in the past and present.
And in some songs-well jahili community first, which is often the women lantunkan is: O Allah, what should I do about my son, the rebellious, in childhood I was with difficulty raised him, after getting married with a daughter he did Roman arbitrary to me. This woman complained to God's attitude towards their children who have been raised with difficulty, but after getting married with a Roman Christian woman, she forgot her mother.
As examples of people who do good to parents, among others, the story of three people trapped in caves, among them there is a saying: "There is no way that can save you unless you bertawassul with good deeds. One of them prayed: "O God I have two elderly parents and my family do not eat and drink in the evening before they were both, at one time I ever went away for a purpose that I came home late and when he got home I got them both in a state of sleep. Then my milk for the night, but they both still fast asleep, while I do not like having to eat and drink before them. Finally I waited, holding the milk until they were both awake, until dawn came they were both newly built and drinking milk. O Allah, if the deeds which are done by me including deeds sincerely seek for your face, then our difficulties hilangkanlah of this big rock, and rock that was moved from the mouth of the cave.
Still many other examples of people who are dutiful to their parents in both the past and now that it is impossible to tell in full, the goodness of their per-dedicated to their parents in return for services, care and maintenance of them and as evidence of sincere recognition and noble character. This all requires to every child to remember the good that is always flowing incessant until the end of life.
Some righteous people before leaving for work there who took her parents come to the house, kissing her hand to asking for his blessing and ask how well their health. Then go to work. This noble and commendable attitude, very good if practiced in community life.
Imam Muslim narrated from the hadeeth of Abu Hu-rairah that he said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Woe, woe." He asked: "Who, O Messenger of Allah? He sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:" Someone who found her parents, and one or both of them are elderly, then do not go to Heaven. "
From Abdullah ibn Umar said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Three people did not go to heaven and not seen Him on the Day of Resurrection; People, the rebellious to the one old, women who resemble men and dayyuts. (Narrated by Ahmad)
Disobedience to parents is a big zhalim deeds and attitudes do not know myself.
Prophet who taught mankind the ethics and etiquette to know the position and function of a mother and father and then give instructions to every believer to be the people who take responsibility.
Among the forms of birrul walidain after his parents died is to connect relationships with friends and relatives of friends of her parents.
From Abdullah ibn Umar said: I actually heard the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Truly the best action is to connect the relationship with the relatives of his parents' friends." (Saheeh al-Jami ', Al-Albani)
Proof of love and dedication to the parents is to respect and maintain friendly relations with the parents of his friends. When a person strengthen friendly relations with his father friend, is proof of dedication to the parents and the sign of a good outcome to the child's parent education.
Imam Muslim mentions in the book chapter shahihnya virtue friendship relations connecting with friends father or mother. Because the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Truly the best action is to connect the friendly relations with his parents saha-bat."
And also the hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam in honoring friends after the death of Khadija.
The scholars said that al-birr connect silaturrahim meaningful, loving, and doing the good and maintaining friendships. Including the whole of the core goodness. /
ADVICE IN MUTIARA SILATURRAHIM
O people Hiasilah relations with kinsmen pleasure of Allah, direct your steps toward a living relative is a blessing and derajatmu will be high on the side of God when you set foot for bersilaturrahim. Rahmah always mengiringimu angels and the worship of God is upon thee, and thou bersilaturrahim will get the reward and forgiveness from God. When you visit a sick aunt mean you have comforted her and as a sign of success in educating you.
Brother and sister both sebapak venter and only brother or mother, or sepersusuan, all must realize mutual yangi, respect and connect relationships both ape-bat at close or far apart.
Brotherly relations between the brother-ra particularly males with sisters have a very unique touch that is a very gentle touch of the inner and the loyalty that is very deep and getting higher fertile place despite the distance apart.
O sister venter, God bequeathed to me so I always connect silaturrahim, by nature we are brothers and we are commanded by Kitabullah bersilaturrahim and God threatens to doom and woe to those who decide kin relations.
From Jubayr bin Muth'im that the Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"There will enter Paradise who broke relatives." (Muttafaq 'alaih)
Connecting friendship with her uncle and aunt are included as part of silaturrahim, based on the hadith of Abu Hurairah that the Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Are you not aware that someone is a brother of his father's uncle."
Connecting kin relationship with the daughter of a sister-bersilatur including his mother's womb and so did bersilatur-womb with mother's sister. From Barra 'ibn Azib that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wasallam said:
"Mother's sister (aunt) has a position of like a mother". (Muttafaq 'alaih)
From Ibn Mas'ud that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said:
"Mother's sister (aunt) is the capital." (Narrated Ath-Thabrani)
Women are creatures who are weak and become stronger because of the presence of men. At the time brother sister visited the house, then he rejoiced and was happy with the visit. Husband and his family also rejoiced, with the pride these sister told village residents that the brothers came to understand the situation and their health and that is the pillar of his life after God in times of trouble and difficulty.
What a delicious food that comes from the brother-ra, the father or uncle, and how precious the gift that came from the siblings and relatives.
The sisters express joy by saying may God forgotten your mind go on, O my brother, may God always in tiasa give salvation to you from every disaster, I am very happy for your presence and I am very happy and proud to visit you guys before my husband and family him.
